 Learning the ropes
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Feb. 9th, 2005 @ 09:11 am 
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M came home with a little surprise last weekend: two six-foot lengths of half-inch nylon rope, bright crimson, the cut ends handsomely whipped with black electrical tape.
He asked me to get on the bed, fully dressed, so he could try out a few positions and knots. Safety and comfort were paramount. He decided to tie my wrists above my head in a slip knot and loop the free end of the rope over the bedpost. This let him flip me from back to stomach and but also let me free myself in an emergency.
I was so pleased. This time last year, this gentle man who has hardly ever raised his voice to me, let alone his hand, was balking at the idea of spanking me. Now here he was, figuring out how to tie me up so he could play with me.
And so later that night, blindfolded with black silk and trussed with red rope, I thrashed about while he assaulted me with ice-cubes. He trailed them over my nipples and let them drip onto me, then put them in his mouth while he licked and sucked my cunt. He tickled and smacked me with a big feather duster. When I shrieked and twisted away from him in delight, he’d slap my arse. Hard. He straddled my chest and stuck his rigid cock in my mouth.
It’s not domming and probably never will be, since he lacks the urge to lead, to take some initiative on this sexual journey. He just goes where I suggest, and believe me, I have to suggest it overtly and repeatedly. But hell, he’s trying, he’s learning, and he’s open to more. That should be enough for me.
Except that---oh dear god---it’s not.
For further reading:
BDSM for nice guys
Tags: sex, sexblogs, BDSM, erotica
************Feeling: like no-one seems to hear Listening to: Brain Damage, Pink Floyd |
Mmmmmm, rope. I'm tossing hints right and left about rope to MFC and if he doesn't get it soon, I'm just going to order some from Monk and leave it out on our bed for him.
If he can't take hints, try what I did---print off all the stuff at that BDSM for Nice Guys site and give it to him for homework. Once M had it in black and white, he got the idea.
Soft nylon rope from any hardware store is wonderful, btw. It's usually white in colour. It's soft on the skin and holds a knot perfectly, but it's easy to untie. Don't get that yellow polypropylene stuff.
DTG xxoo
Thanks for the suggestion, you just have to love Vicki and that site, I wish she posted more.
He's a born Dom, my lovely MFC. We've moved into a much more serious D/s relationship over the last year and a half (he even bought me a wrist flogger for my birthday). But I shouldn't be so passive about it I suppose, I just need to say, "Look, buy me some rope and tie me up with it!" But that might spoil the little dance we do around such things.
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February 9th, 2005 04:13 pm (UTC) |
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Old dogs
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See, you can teach an old dog new tricks. And have a little fun in the process. Delicious. XOXO, Infatuateur.
Thank you, darling. Something else about old dogs: years of practice have made them perfect.
;)
DTG xxoo
...when the insatiate awaken from the slumber of normal life, grown men[1] cry for the vain effort of granting satisfaction that never comes... - JQ[1] (and women -- I say this not out of political correctness, but to make the point that females, too, can be overwhelmed by a lover with boundless hunger.)
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February 13th, 2005 02:16 pm (UTC) |
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Perhaps slow to learn, but...
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...still, isn't it exciting this stumbling, bumbling, careful dance of love and lust? We men get these strange, wonderful packages called women into our beds and hearts and lives - but no instructions. Nothing to say, "this is what she wants" in an itemized list numbered from one to hundred. No, we have to guess at every item, never knowing how many they are.
| From: | ![[info]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif) ellinoz |
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February 13th, 2005 05:58 pm (UTC) |
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BDSM for nice guys -- A lovely, intelligent, well written link, thanks DTG,
Cheers,
Ell
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| From: | subonfire |
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March 9th, 2005 06:27 am (UTC) |
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Try this
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I just did, and it worked. I'm in the same situation as you, my man is trying to please me, not domming me. The other day I deliberately challenged him and pissed him off, and with the fire of outrage in his belly he found that domly place i had longed for so much, and he dominated me for real for the first time.
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